1 post tagged “friends forever”

What do you bring most to a friendship?

No drama.

These days, I think that's pretty good.

I won't bitch and whine non-stop about my friends, my family, my bad decisions.

I won't constantly make bad decisions, and look to my friends to help me cope with them over and over and over again.

I won't cancel plans. If there are plans, and I have committed to them, barring illness or grave emergency I will be there.

And I definitely won't just pull a no-show. If I can't come, I'll let you know.

I won't burden you with my shitty friends. We all have one or two. People we think deserve some company, but are too much maintenance to bring along with others. Know when to leave them aside.

I won't forget you exist every time I get even moderately involved in a romantic relationship.

I won't be crying on your couch when said relationship comes screeching to a halt. (Oh, and I did told you so.)

I won't expect you to deal with my plans at the drop of a hat. I know you have a life, and it doesn't hinge on what I feel like doing at any given moment. If you can make it spur-of-the-moment, great. If not, I understand.

I know you have your friends, and I have mine, and everyone doesn't have to do everything together every time, like some sort of friend commune. If you went to dinner with your friends, and didn't invite me, I won't feel bad. It's ok. (Now, if you went to dinner with my friends and didn't invite me, I'd be feeling a little excluded. Because I would never do that.)

I won't call you at 3AM to talk me through my insomnia.

I won't just assume you will watch my cats when I'm gone.

I won't just assume you're my ride to the airport. Every. Time.

In other words, I treat my friends like I'd like to be treated. Maybe sometimes this makes me a little distant, because I don't need constant attention, but I think it's better than the alternative.

No drama.